Friends are an integral part of our social and psychological development. We all need friends. They help us to celebrate our good times and get past our bad times. Without the support of friends, life would be difficult. Even if we have a strong and close family, friends help us cope with our day-to-day problems that can’t always be shared with the family. They are the support system we can’t do without. While some can make friends easily, many can’t and end up lonely. This cannot be attributed to luck alone, planetary positions in out Astro chart are responsible for keeping us surrounded by friends or making us loners.

How do friends help?

Having friends and the ability to make friends easily, demonstrates a healthy psychological framework of an individual’s mind. Adding to a sense of purpose and giving one a sense of belonging, the happiness quotient of our life is significantly boosted.

Friends bring down stress to a manageable proportion. Friends help us step up our self-confidence and augment our self-worth. Dealing with adult life problems in various relationships is important. Spouses, children, parents, siblings, and work, friends are our biggest support systems.

They lend a shoulder to cry on during our low times, when we lose people we love. A genuinely loyal and good friend motivates us to use our life purposefully, give up unhealthy habits and improve our lifestyle.

The psychological contribution of a friend in our lives is immense. Friends can be our sole path to recovery when the world has given up on us. Our mental health, when down in the dumps, can be lifted with the support of a genuine friend, such is the power of friendship.

What keeps you away from friends?

Not everyone is fortunate or capable enough to make friends easily or have reliable and good friends.

As one grows, some find it difficult to keep their friendship or make new friends. With other priorities, friendship may not appear to be the most important thing in life. The first impediment to friendship is work, our time at work can be so consuming and engrossing that we may feel completely disassociated from friends.

Once we meet our spouse, we are so engrossed in settling down together that friends fade, and bonds weaken. After settling a bit, some do connect with friends and plan meetings and outings together that glue and give friendship a new definition which includes the spouses.

After we have children, they take most of our time and attention. Maintaining old friendships need a concerted effort. As our child grows, we find ourselves making friends with people who have kids of the same age so that our kids can make friends with them. Our friend circle starts growing with our kids.

Why can’t some people make friends?

Some people find it difficult to make friends. Having a spouse or children does not change their lives and they stay lonely and by themselves. While you can say this largely happens from a personality drawback, I will attribute this to astrological combinations in the birth chart that drives friends away.

People come to me with all sorts of problems and not only does astrology help them but also counsels them in the right direction. Not being able to make friends also features in their problems.

Someone once told me, “I have a group of friends; I make every effort of staying in touch, but they just don’t seem interested. I hear that they have their meetings where I am never included. I don’t know what is wrong with me and why am I left out.” There is nothing wrong with you, your planetary position makes you dwell in this zone.

“Though I work and don’t get too much time. I chat with people and am always nice to them in common neighbourhood meets but people there are reluctant to talk despite me making the first move.”

“No one seems friendly or wants to know me. It makes me sad. I am always nice to people and go out of my way to help them, but people do not include me in their groups or get-togethers. I do not understand what is wrong with me. Even amongst cousins, when I call them over, we have fun and talk, but no one calls me over to their place. All this makes me wonder what the matter could be.”

So, before we begin to discuss any further, I want to remind you, that though we keep blaming situations for our shortcomings, they have little to do with our behavior, but everything to do with the planets. Your Astro chart is the foundation of everything that goes on in your life. So, all that troubles you are a direct outfall of mismatched planets. An astro coach can effectively identify your problems and guide you toward a better life.

Some people have a natural talent, as they say, for cultivating many friends. However, friendship should not be evaluated by quantity but by quality. Only a few can make it to the inner circle of your life. This relationship is the one you can fall back on through the thick and thin of your life. Your friend can be your sibling too, so the truest friendship comes from someone who stands by you through every storm and holds you, helping you find yourself.

People may cite many reasons for your inability to make friends.

They can say that you have a temperamental problem; you are shy or uncomfortable with others.

This drives people away.

Your inner insecurities act like roadblocks and distance others.

You are an introvert, instead of spending time with friends, you like to spend time with yourself.

Or being too social, lose sight of cultivating special friends.

You have psychological issues of not being able to establish intimate relationships with others.

You may not want people to come too close to you and build a psychological wall.

You aren’t comfortable with social etiquette and find it difficult to open up to others.

You are class-conscious or it is your job, you never settle anywhere for long, and thus you are always treated as an outsider.

If you suffer from physical disabilities people do not readily become friends with you as they feel uncertain about how to react.

You are too pushy, dominating, or controlling you put people off.

The ignorance and recognition of the problem further add to your miseries. There is no reason to feel so low, you need someone to go through your Astro chart and help you out.

What are the planetary reasons for not having friends?

When you come to me, I can cite astrological reasons that act as obstructions to a person’s ability to attract others, communicate and strengthen the ties of friendship.

While there are some people always surrounded by friends and relatives, others do not have someone to share their happiness or sadness with.

Some overlook and neglect their other obligations as they are hyper-social and want to spend more and more time with their friends. This especially happens with youngsters who often get so caught up with their friends that they forget about their future goals and objectives. Parents become their worst enemies and friends take over their lives. If they find good and sensible friends they are saved, however, if their friends lead them in the wrong direction, their life is ruined.

Planets play a primary role in a person’s life, determining their relationship with others. Sometimes in a relationship, all seems to be going well, but they don’t work out due to the difficult positioning of planets that affect relationships.

For example, if best friends enter a business partnership nothing should go wrong, but the seeds of rivalry start germinating and the partnership is torn apart with grave losses in business. How can you explain this transformation, if not through astrology?

So let me give you an idea of what planets positioned where will or will not be responsible for making friends.

Your communications are excellent when you have a well-placed Mercury. The 3rd lord will give the advantage of communication skills, gaining friends and acquaintances.

A well-placed moon affects the mind, bringing clear and cheerful thoughts in a person, and filling their life with joy and laughter. The 5th house is the house that controls your mind. It looks upon the 11th house that helps you to form acquaintances.

But those with malefic planets in the 11th house or close to the edge of the 10th, have a high chance of being influenced and misdirected by the wrong friends.

If there are fine lines under the finger of Mercury (the little finger), then friends are likely to play an influential part in your life and can even ruin your image. Natives who have these lines must face ignominy and suffer from the misdeeds of their friends. You can look for such lines in your child’s hand. Your child will have an affinity to pick friends on whom they will depend on a lot. But these friends will break your child’s trust and hurt them. Also, children whose Mercury and Mars are weak, do not have good friends.

To conclude

While friendship has a lot to do with your personality, your personality is shaped by the placement of planets in your Astro chart. You wish to rectify your behaviour and make things a little better for yourself, it is indeed a commendable act. But finding the real reason behind your behaviour will help you get to the bottom of the problem and cure it from the roots. Seek help from Jyotirmoyee Sushmita, a leading Rudraksha consultant in Kolkata, and make yourself approachable, likeable, and amiable to attract the right friends. Call +91-9315919721 for an appointment.